Written by Asking friends and others to contribute to your memoirs can be a delicate task, as it involves sharing personal stories and experiences. Here are some steps and tips to guide you through this process:
Define Your Request
Before approaching anyone, be clear about what kind of contribution you’re seeking. Do you want written anecdotes, personal reflections, photographs, or something else? Knowing exactly what you need will make it easier to communicate your request.
Create a List of Potential Contributors
Identify the people who have shared significant experiences with you or have had a meaningful impact on your life. These could be family members, friends, colleagues, mentors, or even acquaintances who played a noteworthy role in certain events or periods.
Personalize Your Approach
When you reach out, make each request personal. Explain why you’ve chosen them specifically and how their perspective is valuable to your memoir. A personalized approach shows respect and consideration for their unique contribution.
Be Clear and Respectful
Clearly explain the purpose of your memoir and what their contribution would mean to you. Be respectful of their privacy and boundaries, especially if you’re discussing potentially sensitive topics.
Offer Options and Flexibility
Some may feel uncomfortable writing their own accounts or may be unsure about what to say. Offer them options, like conducting an interview (either written or oral), or suggest specific topics or questions they might answer.
Assure Discretion and Control
Let contributors know that they will have control over what is shared. Assure them that they will have the opportunity to review and approve their contributions before the memoir is finalized.
Express Gratitude
Regardless of whether they agree to contribute or not, express your gratitude for considering your request. Showing appreciation for their time and consideration is important.
Follow Up, But Respect Decisions
If someone doesn’t respond immediately, it’s okay to follow up once or twice. However, respect their decision if they choose not to participate.
Provide a Deadline
If they agree to contribute, provide a clear but reasonable deadline. This helps to keep your project on track and shows that you value their time.
Make It Easy for Them
Offer to help them with their contribution if needed. This could be through providing prompts, helping with writing or recording their stories, or answering any questions they might have about the process.
Use Social Media or Group Communications
For a broader approach, use social media, email newsletters, or group chats to reach out to a wider circle. This can be particularly effective for reconnecting with old friends or distant relatives.
Respect Privacy and Anonymity
Some individuals might be willing to contribute but prefer to remain anonymous or have their names changed. Respect these requests to ensure their comfort and privacy.
Consider Legal Aspects
For certain types of content, especially sensitive or potentially controversial material, consider the legal implications. You might need permissions or releases signed, particularly if their contribution includes creative content they’ve authored.
Conclusion
This is My Life members can use our handy invitation tool to reach out to and track the responses of potential contributors.
Remember, the key to asking for contributions is to be respectful, clear, and grateful. Most people will be honored to be a part of your project, especially when they understand the significance of their contribution to your story.